Sample Stories From the Winter 2008 Issue of The S-Anews©

The Gifts of the Program

Members share some of the gifts they have received from the S-Anon program.

Gratitude

Gratitude was the topic of my very first meeting. It seemed an unbelievably insane topic to me. My life had been turned upside down and I had nothing to be grateful for. But this is the beauty of S-Anon meetings: After listening to everyone share, I realized I did have gratitude. Not much, but I shared I was grateful for my children, my health and my job.

Early in my recovery I chose a sponsor. One of her first suggestions was that I make a gratitude list. It was too hard for me. But this is the beauty of the program. After working the program the thoughts of gratitude just come to me.

Today, I use gratitude as a measure of my program.  If thoughts of gratitude don’t appear, I know I am not in tune with program principles. I need to review my day…. to get my gratitude back!

 

Messengers

Just for today, when I think about gratitude the first thing that comes to mind is how grateful I am for all the people who have helped me-- even when I didn’t know it at the time.  The list begins with my parents and siblings, teachers, friends, partners, sponsors, spiritual friends in the program--and the list goes on. 

I am a person who came late to the awareness that my Higher Power speaks to me through other people.  True, I allowed some people into my life who were not able to be affirming, and who, at the time, did not seem to help me to advance.  My new reality, however, is that since I have been doing my best to apply the principles of the Twelve Steps to my life, and practicing the Eleventh Step through prayer and meditation, I feel more able to accept the positive messages my Higher Power is giving me through others. 

Today I am grateful for the willingness of others to be honest and direct, and for my growing ability to consider their perspectives--rather than “perceiving personal criticism as a threat.”  Strangely, it is especially hard for me when these “messengers” say nice things to me!  Are they just flattering me for some reason and trying to get something from me? 

I don’t believe that any more.  Today, I take the kind comments of others to mean that my Higher Power loves me just as I am, and when I am open to my Higher Power’s love as expressed through others, I feel surrounded by it!

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