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"It seemed that by sharing the pain with S-Anon
members, it was lessened." |
I
went to my first meeting immediately after learning that
my husband's string of affairs was an addiction to lust.
I was in so much pain from the discovery of the betrayal
I was desperate enough to try anything. I also wanted
answers about living with a sexaholic, like "What
is the percentage of sexaholics who relapse?" and
"How would I know if relapse had occurred?" I
never did get the percentages I wanted, but I go to know
a group of people who understood my pain as no one else
could, having been there themselves. I was one of those
who could disregard what therapists told me, saying to
myself "They haven't been betrayed as I have!"
But I couldn't dismiss what I heard in these meetings.
In the beginning I cried, meeting after meeting, but I
always felt reassured when they told me they had been
where I was and understood. It seemed that by sharing
the pain with them, it was lessened. I came to learn
that I was dependent upon another person for my
happiness and for life itself, and that was part of my
problem. S-Anon has helped me to gradually
gain an independence, self-confidence and serenity I
never thought possible. |
